We are familiar with this scenario because we have all been apart of it. A salesman is trying to sell a product to a potential customer and the customer walks away saying, "I'll think about it". What just happened? The potential customer basically just said no. We all know that in most cases, "I'll think about it" means no. The person saying so is too weak or scared to just say no so they substitute "I'll think about it" inferring that there just maybe is a possibility of a yes, rare as that might be.
Now look at this scenario, again one we are all quite familiar with. A wife asked her husband as they are parting for the day. I have asked you for a month now to fix the porch steps will you do it today? He yells back over his shoulder. Sure I'll try, and hurries away. Now what just happened here? He is saying no, not going to happen, but at the end of the day I can always say I tried, and she knows its not happening, because she has gotten the same answer every day for 30 days, with no results.
Trying is one of the laziest, mediocre, excuses for a word as there is in our vocabulary. It allows a person to pretend that they are going to do something, knowing full well, that it probably isn't going to happen, but giving them that fall back of, well I tried!
Trying is a weak way of saying no, with just the hint of commitment to actually get something done. Trying is what mediocre people do on a regular basis. Trying is the excuse that we use to just be normal, and complacent and ordinary.
Do you want to be extraordinary? Fantastic? Do you want to be like Einstein, or Bill Gates? Do you want to be Michael Jordan or Abraham Lincoln? Do you think they just "tried"? or do you think they were committed to accomplish?
If we look hard at ourselves we will see that we will DO what we want to and are motivated to do! We will try doing all the rest. Which usually doesn't get done.
If you want to soar like an eagle in business, family and relationships, then give up trying and start doing. Commit to saying yes I will do this, and not I will try. Quit giving yourself a built in excuse and an easy way out. Work at whatever you committed to doing and get it done.
Imagine how your spouse would feel if you said yes I will do that, and actually get it done. Imagine your boss being able to actually count on you following through and making it happen. Imagine your parents able to actually trust your word and follow through.
Do you want to be successful? Would you like to soar like an eagle above all the waddling turkeys of the world.
Then just do it! stop TRYING, stop pretending and just start DOING!
Do the day!
Michael
I always found it surprising how often people reach a goal when they truly set their mind to it. However, how do you keep from focusing too much on your goal and getting it at all costs while other responsibilities suffer?
ReplyDeleteYou are right. Many times goals are reached, but much is sacrificed along the way to get there.
ReplyDeleteIt seems to me that the idea is to reach your goal, put in the effort and sacrifice needed, but not to sacrifice your relationships along the way. Don't leave your family and friends out, make them part of your goal, take them along for the ride, and the enjoyment at the end of the succesful trip.
Find your gold at the end of your rainbow. Just take along those who you love you, and who love you in return.
Then you can truly enjoy the effort you put into reaching your goal, as you have somone to actually share the rewards with you.
I don't think reaching a goal and losing all of those who you love along the way to getting there would be worth the price you paid. Sacrafice what is needed to get there, just make sure its not your loved ones, or it will be an empty win for sure...